Even I suffer from 'not feeling it' sometimes!



 Hiya,


You've not had a blog from me for a couple of weeks, LIFE happened!

As a therapist, I speak to people all the time who say things like, 'I just didn't have the energy' or 'I wasn't feeling it' or 'an event happened, or a disaster, and I ran out of time.'

This has happened to me recently, I got busy, a few terrible things happened that meant I ran out of time to sit on my bottom and blog. I also wasn't 'feeling' it, I was preoccupied with the events in my own life and it prevented me from waffling online in a blog for two weeks.

No excuses, I just didn't want to blog for the sake of blogging and I needed to give myself a little time out, because when you are helping others all the time, you sometimes forget to look after yourself properly.

The thing with poor mental health is, it affects everyone at some time. And when I say to people that I am not feeling myself they are surprised, because of the massive front I put on all the time on social media, and face to face. No one wants to hear my shit when they are dealing with their own.

So, two weeks ago I literally had a week from hell, something bad happened to me or someone close to me, every day for 5 days! I hadn't got over one thing before another happened. I had no time to deal with a lot of work issues such as admin etc.... I had to focus on client sessions and then deal with my personal life. Work, it's only part of your life, no one was really going to notice that my Facebook posts were down 50% except for me, probably no one has noticed that I haven't blogged for two weeks, except for me. And that's just my personal pride and goal setting. I don't like letting myself down, because I am all I have to answer to, after all!

No one died because of it, and no one cared, except for me. 

I have recently been saying just this to a client, they are employed, not even self-employed as I am, yet they care passionately about doing their job properly, and I get that, but at the end of the day, they can walk away from that job, go home and forget about it until the next day, because it's not their business, their reputation, it's not their responsibility, they are a small cog, effective cog, but still only a small part of the bigger machine. You CAN walk away, switch off and not worry until the next day when you walk in through the door again. 

Lots of us take pride in our work, we care, we want to do our best for everyone, but we can only do this when we are at the top of our game ourselves. I can't help someone with their mind and body wellness if my own is flagging can I? Of course not, because my focus won't be 100% on it. So I took time out to sort out, as best as I could, my issues and then got back to it.

Even this blog is an apology for not being 100% present recently, I felt a need to write it, but also feel like other people need to learn this lesson too. 

Step away, breathe, reset, whatever you need to be the best you can be, then get back into it again, just like running up a hill. It's tough, you may even need to walk the last bit, but stop at the top, check out the view, breathe in the fresh air, reset and move on refreshed.

Are YOU taking time out to resolve your personal mental and physical life worries?

Make sure you do!


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