Create precious moments for wonderful memories.

HOW often do you do something that really makes you happy? Do you take every opportunity to do it?

I have always gone out of my way to do things that excite me or make me happy, new experiences, new opportunities. Luckily my husband knows this about me and so when tickets for the wonderful Seth Lakeman were available for Exeter Cathedral, and my special 'big' birthday was due, he got them! He isn't a fan of Seth as a rule, although I do believe he likes him more now than he did because of seeing how epic he is.

HE wanted to create a happy memory for us both together, a memory that was also a present. Giving the gift of a happy memory is one of the best.

DID you know that you only remember things once as they truly were? Your other memories of it, are just memories of the first memory you had! Confused? Well, when I first looked back at my wonderful evening on the journey back from Exeter, that was the first and only true memory of the event. The next time I remembered, it was the memory I had in the car, and so on. This is why memories get distorted over time, we may remember when we are tired, or under the weather, distorting the thought for the first time, changing it ever so slightly. And over the years it could change completely.

SO make the most of the memory, write a poem about the event, take videos and photos, draw pictures, write in a diary as soon as you can, document that true memory that you so enjoyed.

THE same goes for bad things too, distortion over time happens, this is why sometimes we think that the original issue that happened to us gets worse in our minds. This is why it is so important to talk about bad things that happen to us straight away. Tell someone close to you, this first telling of the problem is your first memory of it, the most true version. The person you are talking to can then set you straight, help you with the problem, get you the mental health help that you need, talk it through as soon as possible so that the issue can be processed, sorted, solved, healed and then put to the back of your mind where it belongs.

KEEP the happy.

LOCK away the unhappy.

TRY this next time you either have a happy time, or a sad time.
 

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