Staying true to yourself and your beliefs

IN the past, I have got myself in trouble for being honest, for sticking to my guns about my beliefs, thoughts and ideas.

TODAY is no different, and although I am more patient, more guarded and restricted with my opinions, I always make sure that they are heard.

YOU are important in life, everyone deserves their opinions to be heard, no matter how much we may hate those of others, they belong to them, and should not simply be pushed away, they may have a point and you may not have heard it.

MY values are my own, they haven't really changed much over the years, although the immature beliefs of my twenties are finely tuned into adulthood and facts, whereas before they were based on emotions and feelings. Of course what I think still involves feelings and emotions, but it's 50% involvement and 50% fact now.

MAKE sure that your feelings are heard, and respected, but make sure that they are grounded in facts, in truth, because that cannot be denied. Your feelings are just that, emotions, and particularly in females where our hormones dictate a lot of rubbish at various times in the month, year, whatever, we have to ground it in truth, in fact. 

BEFORE you open your mouth and offend someone, ask yourself, 'am I correct in this? Have I checked out all scenarios? Am I right? Is this a decision based on fact?' Then you have every right to go for it, because you cannot argue with the truth, and so your gut feeling, your emotional response, now grounded can be listened to and respected.

IT only takes a few minutes to go through this process before opening your mouth, so make sure that you do, and if necessary, take longer to think about it, but don't answer straight away, don't answer with your gut, your emotions, answer with your thinking head, get the facts. I know it's hard to not say anything if you 'think' you are right but have no facts to back it up, but staying silent will help you in the long run, and, of course give you time to get your facts straight, and if you can't, accept that you didn't get it right this time, but make sure you do next time.

AND of course, opinions are just that, if you really don't like something, you can say just that, but expect backlash! 

BE TRUE TO YOURSELF, no one else will do it for you.
 

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