Do you have to be happy all the time?

WHAT a strange blog topic I hear you say?

I know, but life isn't perfect, no one has a good life every second of the day, every day, it simply doesn't happen.

SO how do we cope with disappointment and disaster? And why are so many people taking anti-depressants for general anxiety when they aren't actually depressed?

WHEN we experience a trauma in our lives, we are bound to become upset, reclusive, anxious, all the signs that we are not happy. This is normal, if you didn't feel bad, I'd be worrying!

YOU can feel sad, you can cry, you may lose your apetite for a short while, but these things will pass with time, you don't necessarily need to go to see the doctor the moment you feel sad, give yourself time to deal with the situation, the grief, the aftermath of whatever it is, live in that moment because it's a situation that we will learn from, that information will be stored to protect us in the future.

OF course, if this goes on for months, or longer, then yes professional intervention is appropriate, but being human is having feelings, letting them go and moving on.

IF you do have a mental health issue that you are being treated for, maybe you take medication for, remember, that every day, you will feel better, but if a trauma happens, you will be set back, just the same as anyone else. That doesn't mean that the therapy, or meds aren't working, it means that something awful has happened and it's okay if you've taken a step backwards in your progress. It will pass, and you can carry on, moving forwards once that trauma has been processed.

THE phrase that keeps getting used (or over-used) 'It's okay to not be okay!'  is very true, but only for a short while, that phrase to me means short-term trauma, other mental health issues should be dealt with swiftly, and with appropriate help from professionals.

HORMONES! Oh yeah, that ol' chestnut! I can say that, as a woman, with a rollercoaster of imbalances over the years from puberty onwards, you really cannot be happy all of the time, you have absolutely no control over it! But what I will say is, Ashwaganda is your friend! You cannot help how you are feeling, but acknowledge how you are feeling, because once you know the cause of your bad mood, sometimes you can turn it around! Women will understand this more, the rage you feel with PMT when a hair continually brushes on your cheek, it's ridiculous, it doesn't make sense, and in two weeks time that same hair, you don't even notice.

WHAT I am basically saying is, be happy as much as is possible, take time to laugh, listen to jokes (maybe not mine) do the positive things you enjoy and make the very most of happy moments, because it's fairly predictable that the shit will hit the fan again soon and dull that heightened mood, but only for a short time.

EMBRACE life, that means the good and the bad times, and make sure you learn from them both!


 

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